What is the most important gift you've ever (1) given and (2) received?
1. Most important gift given:
Last night at my HB meeting, we were discussing how LITTLE MONEY we had in college and how incredible it would be if we could live now on the amount of money we lived on THEN.
I mean, seriously, I think I made $200 a month at my job at the extension service. IF THAT. And I PARTIED like a rock star, went out to eat, had clothes and HAD A STANDING TANNING AND NAIL APPOINTMENT.
Sh*t, I don't even have that NOW.
For Christmas one year, being poor, broke college student, I came up with creative (i.e. INEXPENSIVE) gifts for my parents.
These gifts still sit on display in our house today, 9 years later. Apparently, I done good.
I made each of my parents a box. I decorated it with little drawings of us and things that were important in our lives at that point, being Aggie parents, traveling, etc. Inside the box, I filled it with pieces of paper, on which were written special memories or characteristics of my parents that I wanted them to know I appreciated. Memories from trips to Europe, stopping to see Ed the 8,000 pound prairie dog on the way to Montana, little inside jokes, jabs about staged pictures of my dad shaking my hand when I graduated from 8th grade, sort of like I was accepting an Emmy (um, WTF).
I made it so that they could pull out a slip of paper from time to time and remember why they're so important to me, so special.
PRETTY DAMN GOOD FOR A BROKE ASS COLLEGE STUDENT, EH?
2. Most important gift received:
Just so that no one gripes, let's establish this: IV is the best gift I've ever received in my entire life. He is the moon and stars, the Reeses to my peanut butter cup.
But we're talking tangible gifts, folks.
When I got pregnant, I went straight to my friend Grace's home in Amarillo. Grace and I were never BFF because she had a BFF already but we were pretty danged close. She is an amazing, spirited person, with such a passion for life. And I am all about being passionate.
She also can run the fastest naked circles you've ever seen in the rain. Don't ask, it's a Choctaw thing I think.
Anyway, Grace had just had her own little one, Betty B., so I went to her for some celebrating and to check out this mom gig, see what was up. How hard can it be?
Grace took me in a spoiled the heck out of me - she gave me books and vitamins and raspberry voo-doo medicine that would send me into labor. She took me to Poppy's house where they made me gumbo and a cake for my birthday. We sat in the outdoor garden house and lit a fire, sat around talking mom to mom to almost-mom. She gave me the fluffiest spare room bed and Brian fixed pancakes in the morning. It was HEAVEN.
And Grace gave me a gift - a delicate silver locket for me to put the baby's picture in.
It was such a small gesture but such a big lesson.
Grace carries people in her heart everywhere she goes - and while I may not be as good at that as her, she gave me a gift, a tool, to help.
I wore that locket the entire time I was pregnant...a little less now because I have a grabby paws toddler who thinks that everything should be pulled and yanked and thrown and stomped on with his monkey feet...but I keep it in its soft little grey Barnes Jewlers box, on top of my dressing table.
Sometime soon I will be able to wear it again but I will never forget the kindess and love that was behind this gesture.
Henry James once said that "There are three important things in life: the first is to be kind. The second is to be kind. And the third is to be kind. "
It might be a word, a piece of paper, or something much bigger - but give, laugh and love.
xoxo
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